“I am not generally in favor of the arguments that posit that “all things feminine” (like wearing lipstick, high heels or shaving one’s legs) are inherently oppressive—that is a debate that has been going on between 2nd and 3rd wave feminists since well before me and one I don’t feel need to get into here. I believe that there is a subtle, internalized misogyny at play when feminists themselves get going on a circle-jerk of “pink-bashing” and begin to measure “feminist enough” by the extremes to which a woman refuses to perform “femininity.” I would also like to take it as a given, that one cannot care about gender equality and not notice the ways in which female bodies are policed, and how present-day idealized femininity is often painful, time-consuming, and costly to reproduce. Not to mention physically unhealthy.”
— Make-up as Play, Make-up as Performance, Make-up as Oppression — By Ari over at Geeking Sexuality
(Source: geekingsexuality)
It is interesting and sometimes heartbreaking to see trans* (even that term should be heavily footnoted and addressed in a separate appendix) individuals trying to assert their gender in a large world that questions the authenticity and even the existence of their identities, and a smaller, and in theory more friendly, world that some see as threatening because it plays with gender representation and performance without the burden of having to assume a trans* identity.
I don’t have a punchline or an epigram— it’s hard stuff. I usually come down on the side of more play is better than less play, and self definition is one of the most powerful things we can do as individuals. However, what the public at large thinks being trans gendered means is influenced by a lot of cis* individuals, and I can see how that could be frustrating.