- Me: She identifies as a girl. So she's a girl.
- Friend: But she's really a
- Me: No stop
It is interesting and sometimes heartbreaking to see trans* (even that term should be heavily footnoted and addressed in a separate appendix) individuals trying to assert their gender in a large world that questions the authenticity and even the existence of their identities, and a smaller, and in theory more friendly, world that some see as threatening because it plays with gender representation and performance without the burden of having to assume a trans* identity.
I don’t have a punchline or an epigram— it’s hard stuff. I usually come down on the side of more play is better than less play, and self definition is one of the most powerful things we can do as individuals. However, what the public at large thinks being trans gendered means is influenced by a lot of cis* individuals, and I can see how that could be frustrating.